Don'ts for Husbands and Don'ts for Wives are facsimile editions of the original books published by A&C Black in 1913.
Each pocket-sized book contains hundreds of snippets of entertaining advice for a happy marriage, which rings true almost 100 years after it was written.
The reissued titles are ideal Christmas stocking fillers, and gifts for weddings, engagements and anniversaries.
Advice appears under the following chapters: 1. Personalities 2. How to Avoid Discord 3. Habits 4. Financial Matters 5. Evenings at Home 6. Jealousy 7. Recreation 8. Food 9. Dress 10. Entertaining 11. Household Management 12. Children 'Among the bon mots there is much wisdom. They would make great stocking fillers, or wedding anniversary gifts!' Good Book Guide (October 2007)
- Format: Hardback
- Pages: 80 pages, Original 1913 cover illustration
- Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing PLC
- Publication Date: 25/06/2007
- Category: Dating, relationships, living together & marriage
- ISBN: 9780713687903
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Review by seldombites
In 1913, women were expected to wear smotheringly hot full length dresses in order to be considered decent. Most women did not work outside of the home, being expected to be happy in their role as wife and mother. In most of the world, women didn’t even have the right to vote. Surely any marital advice given at this time would seem incredibly outdated or, at the very least, charmingly quaint, in the year 2011? It was with this attitude that I first opened the pages of <i>Don’ts For Wives</i> by Blanche Ebbutt. It did not take me long to realise just how wrong I was. While some of the tips are no longer relevant to the average reader – those having to do with how to deal with servants, for example – much of the wisdom within this volume is as relevant today as it was then. I found myself taking note of many pieces of advice, with the intention of attempting to remedy my behaviour within my own marriage.Much chastened, I moved onto <i>Don’ts for Husbands</i> with a more open mind. Once again, I was surprised at how relevant much of Ms Ebbutt’s advice is to today’s relationships and the progressiveness of some of the points, considering the era in which the book was written.It is a shame that these books have been so unknown for so long, as I feel that the advice in them is more relevant to a newly married couple than a dozen books of the <i>Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus</i> persuasion. I would venture to go so far as to state that a copy of each of these books should be given to the happy couple as a wedding present (or perhaps a housewarming gift for those in less formal arrangements). Certainly anybody in a permanent relationship should consider reading them. You will be surprised at just how much you are doing wrong.
Review by sharlenehsmith
For a book that was written almost 100 years ago, it's doing pretty well in keeping up with the times.<br/><br/>Stay light hearted and don't take things to literally, like he is working for <i> you </i>, he earns the money for the both of you. Back in those days I guess it was normal for the wife not to work and look after the house & their belongings.<br/><br/>Some wives can take a page of two from this book and really learn something.