Between Parent and Child Paperback
- Format: Paperback
- Pages: 256 pages, illus
- Publisher: Random House USA Inc
- Publication Date: 30/01/2004
- Category: Advice on parenting
- ISBN: 9780609809884
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Review by woakden
Book on parent-child communication that didn't leave me feeling like the way I'd been brought up had completely ruined me.
Review by SeriousGrace
This book starts off with the best introduction, "No parent wakes up in the morning planning to make a child's life miserable" (p 1). As soon as I read that I knew I was in for a good read. <em>Between Parent and Child</em> is all about psychological perception and what you say (as a parent), how you say it, and even what you don't say, can influence a child both at that moment and years down the road. What Dr. Ginott offers up is common sense advice about how to communicate with small children and even teenagers. His advice is no-nonsense and extremely practical. It is so straightforward it seems simple, a no-brainer, if you will. The ah-ha moment is not in what to say, it's how to say it to avoid conveying a message you do not intend. Choosing tone as well as the right words are crucial to emotionally intelligent communication with a child. My one naysayer comment? Many, many times Dr. Ginott suggests mirroring the child's emotion to illustrate understanding. The go-to catch phrases are "You <strong>wish</strong> you could play with Sam," "You <strong>wish</strong> you could have ice cream for dinner," and, "You're angry about losing the game." Here's where I would get annoyed. I dislike anyone telling me how I feel. As a small child I probably would have connected with someone "understanding" me... but as a teenager I wouldn't appreciate dad calmly regurgitated what I just angrily spit out.