The Little Black Book of Violence : What Every Young Man Needs to Know About Fighting Paperback
Finalist - 2010 Book of the Year Award by ForeWord MagazineFinalist - 2010 USA Best Book Award The Little Black Book of Violence will arm you with the knowledge and good sense to make informed choices in hazardous situations.
While some yahoo spewing insults about your favorite sports team is worlds apart from a drug-crazed lunatic lunging at you with a sharp knife in his hands and bloodlust in his eyes, there is a large gray area in between these two extremes where hard and fast rules do not always apply.
This is where wisdom, oftentimes hard-earned wisdom, makes the difference between good decisions and bad ones.
Every time you engage in violence, no matter how small or trivial it may appear to be at the time, it has the potential of escalating into something extraordinarily serious.
What is really worth fighting for when you might find yourself spending the rest of your life behind bars, confined to a wheelchair, or trying to dig yourself out of bankruptcy from beneath the crushing weight of a civil lawsuit?
It is important to ask yourself, "Is this really worth fighting over?" While in some instances the response could legitimately be "Yes," more often than not it ought to be "No." More than mere techniques, this book fills in crucial information about street survival that most martial arts instructors don't teach or even know.
You will learn how to use awareness, avoidance, and de-escalation to help stave off violence.
Despite the best intentions, however, you may still find yourself in situations where you have no choice but to fight and others where it is prudent to do so.
Consequently you will also learn smart things you might want to try and dumb things you should attempt to avoid during a physical confrontation.
In addition to learning strategies and techniques for defending yourself on the street you will also learn how to manage the aftermath of violence, including performing first aid, interacting with law enforcement, managing witnesses, finding a good attorney, navigating the legal system, dealing with the press, and overcoming psychological trauma.
Men, who commit about 80 percent of all violent crimes, are twice as likely to become victims of aggressive behavior as women.
While written primarily for this at-risk demographic, this comprehensive tome is essential reading for anyone who regularly deals with violence, thinks they may encounter a hostile situation, or who simply wants to increase their ability to survive a dangerous encounter.
- Format: Paperback
- Pages: 370 pages, Black and White Photographs throughout
- Publisher: YMAA Publication Center
- Publication Date: 01/01/2009
- Category: Oriental martial arts
- ISBN: 9781594391293
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Review by JSmith5528
This book is written for young (15-30) men, and its purpose is to explain real, not cinematic, violence to them. The primary emphasis is on avoiding fights. It’s worth losing face to prevent an butt-kicking. As lifelong martial artists and security professionals Kane and Wilder know a lot about violence, and they emphasize that, for the most part, it’s not worth it. The book is divided into three sections – how to prevent a fight, how to handle yourself during a fight, and what to do after the fight is over. Since the authors want the reader to avoid fights, the first section is the longest. The last section is the shortest because when the fight is over, odds are you’re going to need medical and/or expert legal advice. I am a martial artist, and I am fortunate that A large chunk of this book is things that I learned in my training. But, this is still a great book for all young men and martial artists; primarily because the authors spend a lot of time discussing the legal ramifications of violence. This is a subject that I’ve never had a sensei discuss in depth with me. We practice finishing a downed opponent all the time – a knee to the ribs can be an definitive way to finish the struggle. But, in the real world, it’s hard to claim self defense if you’ve kicked a downed opponent. The courts and police aren’t going to believe that’s self defense, especially once they find out you’re a martial artist. Kane and Wilder tell you “when he stops, you stop (but be wary lest he restart the fight).” This is a lesson I’ve never heard in a dojo. Kane and Wilder walk you through the general legal principles to determine if something is self defense, which is a very valuable lesson. They also emphasize verbal self defense during the altercation. One of the appendices is a page of phrases to shout during the fight – things like “I don’t want to fight you” “Leave me alone.” These phrases could save you after the fight, providing evidence that you didn’t start it and tried to warn away your attacker. No one ever suggested this to me, and it’s a great idea. This is a great book. If I had a son, I’d definitely buy it for him. It should be required reding for all martial artists, as it complements martial arts traning very nicely.